After the success of my previous literary dating tip, culled from the pages of Lord Byron’s Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage, I thought it was time for more guidance for the lovelorn from the pages of fiction.
Here we have Janos Bátky, narrator and protagonist of Antal Szerb’s The Pendragon Legend:
If you wish to attain intimacy with members of the opposite sex, you make an effort to share your past with them, to make them no longer strangers, newcomers to your life.
I would perhaps advise caution if your past is particularly bizarre or distasteful however.
This advice is likely to be of particular utility to the English, for as Bátky also observes when considering the comparative approaches of the Englishman and the Continental in matters of love:
… she listened in respectful silence to my fumbling compliments – not something Englishmen lavish on their women. With us, if we are even slightly drawn to a woman, we will tell her we adore her. An Englishman hopelessly in love will merely observe: “I say, I do rather like you”.
Wodehouse couldn’t have put it better.